Loneliness
Was watching Da Chang Jin as usual last night.. Remember some words said by the Top Kitchen Lady, Zheng, to the next Top Kitchen Lady, Han.. She gave some words of advice.. People that demand great power are always lonely people.. Since they are not happy people, they find their happiness by achieving more power.. We can’t assume how beautiful a place is unless we work inside the place (External Beauty are usually disception).. Its full of corruption, misconception & misery.. We have to learn to sympathize with this lonely people, we have to give & take, or these people will never work or follow your orders.. We sometime have to compromise by not standing too firm with our values (Although they are right) or people will deem us as Cold & Heartless people.. There are many types of people working outside, different methods suit different people, we have to learn through experience.. Lets come back to Loneliness..
3 Thing Loneliness can bring to a Person:
1. Loneliness makes one Greedy.
2. Loneliness make one want more power.
3. Loneliness make one Jealous.
(Actually got few more, but I forget already)
Whatever she say, I can link to her through my personal experience.. I got relatives who are Lonely people.. They find happiness by harming others, getting more money & having bigger house.. Sometime I really pity them.. Whenever I go their house for house warming.. They keep alot to themself, they can;t speak openly because they did alot of wrong things.. They don’t have many friends, because sooner or later friend usually know their personality & leave them.. They only can confide to themselve.. Find them really sad.. They can have all the money in the world but "Are They Really Happy ???".. My buddy once told me that money can buy happiness, & I was totally against it.. He say when you got money, you can go clubbing, go for dates, own a car etc.. He say maybe my relative have friends outside & never show us.. I told him.. You are wrong. Spoken to some of my relative friends when we met some on the roadside & realise they don’t really like my relative, it just because in work place you have to compromise and he is his boss so have to stand by his side.. Do We need Superficial Friends ??? Remember something.. Money can run out anytime, this will make one more greedy & the ending you should know lar.. This world is full of Facade.. Who is not wearing a mask ??? Its a technique for survival.. Like what Zheng say.. If you follow too strong to your moral values, you will be isolated from the rest, no one will listen to you..
My collegue once told me.. Actually being Human is a misery, you work most of your time worry for survival & have to face so many Fake people outside.. Why do babies come to this World crying & not laughing ??? Actually human face is make up of the world " 苦 ".. The 2 ++ on top represent your eyes, 1 + in the middle represent your nose & 口 represent your mouth.. 70% of human feeling are sad.. We only can remember sad experiences better then the happier one.. He is not condemning human life.. But Vise Versa (He is teaching me).. If people understand this Analogy.. People learn to be self satisfy.. 自主长乐.. Don’t always compare with those who are richer, Material wants cannot stop one (Who don’t want to enjoy life ???).. Do more Charity, as there are always less fortunate people out there.. We only can live maybe to 100 years old, make full use of your life.. Money cannot bring you anything when you are dead.. We enter the world naked & we leave it naked too.. You can accompanish Big things without having to use Money.. Define your happiness.. I know how those with broken family feel.. They are usually lonely & full of Hatred.. I sympathy with them and advice them to see a councellor.. your are not crazy.. It that the pain inside you just couldn’t diminsh.. Let other help you.. Or Loneliness will bring you misery like what Lady Zheng have say.. The stories below are meaningful :
Perhaps we can all learn something from this.
A long time ago in China, a girl named Li-Li got married & went to live
with her husband and mother-in-law. In a very short time, Li-Li found
that she couldn’t get along with her mother-in-law at all.
Their personalities were very different, and Li-Li was angered by many of
her mother-in-law’s habits. In addition, she criticized Li-Li constantly.
Days passed, and weeks passed. Li-Li and her mother-in-law never stopped
arguing and fighting.But what made the situation even worse was that,
according to ancient Chinese tradition, Li-Li had to bow to her
mother-in-law and obey her every wish. All the anger and unhappiness in
the house was causing Li-Li’s poor husband great distress.
Finally, Li-Li could not stand her mother-in-law’s bad temper and
dictatorship any longer, and she decided to do something about it!
Li-Li went to see her father’s good friend, Mr. Huang, who sold herbs. She
told him the situation and asked if he would give her some poison so that
she could solve the problem once and for all.
Mr.Huang thought for awhile, and finally said, "Li-Li, I will help you
solve your problem, but you must listen to me and obey what I tell you."
Li-Li said, "Yes, Mr. Huang, I will do whatever you tell me to do." Mr.
Huang went into the back room, and returned in a few minutes with a
package of herbs.
He told Li-Li, "You can’t use a quick-acting poison to get rid of your
mother-in-law, because that would cause people to become suspicious.
Therefore, I have given you a number of herbs that will slowly build up
poison in her body. Every other day prepare some delicious meal and put a
little of these herbs in her serving.
Now, in order to make sure that nobody suspect You.When she dies, you must
be very careful to act very friendly towards her. "Don’t argue with her,
obey her every wish, and treat her like a queen."
Li-Li was so happy. She thanked Mr. Huang and hurried home to start her
plot of murdering her mother-in-law.Weeks went by, and months went by, and
every other day, Li-Li served the specially treated
food to her mother-in-law. She remembered what Mr. Huang had said about
avoiding suspicion, so she controlled her temper, obeyed her
mother-in-law, and treated her like her own mother.After six months had
passed, the whole household had changed. Li-Li had practiced controlling
her temper so much that she found that she almost never got mad or upset.
She hadn’t had an argument with her mother-in-law in six months because
she now seemed much kinder and easier to get along with.The
mother-in-law’s
attitude toward Li-Li changed, and she began to love Li-Li like her own
daughter. She kept telling friends and relatives that Li-Li was the best
daughter-in-law one could ever find.Li-Li and her mother-in-law were now
treating each other like a real mother and daughter. Li-Li’s husband was
very happy to see what was happening.
One day, Li-Li came to see Mr. Huang and asked for his help again.She
said, "Dear Mr. Huang, please help me to keep the poison from killing my
mother-in-law! She’s changed into such a nice woman, and I love her like
my own mother. I do not want her to die because of the poison I gave her."
Mr. Huang smiled and nodded his head. "Li-Li, there’s nothing to worry
about. I never gave you any poison. The herbs I gave you were vitamins to
improve her health. The only poison was in your mind and your attitude
toward her, but that has been all washed away by the love which you gave
to her."
HAVE YOU REALIZED that how you treat others is exactly how they will treat
you?
There is a wise Chinese saying: "The person who loves others will also be
loved in return."
God might be trying to work in another person’s life through you.
Send this to your friends and spread the POWER OF LOVE.
Remember,if you delete this mail nothing will happen. No one will die or
fall sick. But… if you send it to others your may change their life.
After all you have got nothing to lose but a lot to gain.
Another Story We can learn from:
A group of frogs were traveling through the woods, and two of them fell into a deep pit. When the other frogs saw how deep the pit was, they yelled to the two frogs that they were as good as dead. The two frogs ignored the comments and tried to jump up out of the pit with all their might. The other frogs kept telling to them to stop, that there was no hope. Finally, one of the frogs took heed to what the other frogs were saying and gave up. He fell down and died.
The other frog continued jumping as hard as he could. Once again, the crowd of frogs yelled at him to stop his jumping and just die. He jumped even harder and finally made it out. When he got out, (after taking a needed rest) the other frogs clamored, "Didn’t you hear us?" The frog explained to them that he was deaf. He thought they were encouraging him the entire time.
From this we learn two lessons:
A. There is power of life and death in the tongue. An encouraging word to someone who is down can lift them up and help them make it through the day.
B. A destructive word to someone who is down can be what it takes to kill them.
Lawson, your true color is Black!
Your color is black. The color of night. Serene and mysterious, black conjures up images of elegant evening gowns, dashing tuxedos, and gleaming limousines. Traditionally a symbol of success, black also represents power and an uncompromising demand for perfection. Not surprisingly, you tend to set challenging goals for yourself and do whatever it takes to achieve them — your strength of character is second to none. This unfaltering determination, along with your natural elegance, impresses people. But keep in mind that your personality might be intimidating to some. Try to temper your demanding side with a little softness — trust us, it won’t kill you. Overall, though, black is the color of professionalism and achievement, which means it’s clearly the color for you.
